L'art d'aimer: ou conseils à un jeune homme qui se destine à l'amour by Mendès
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"L'art d'aimer: ou conseils à un jeune homme qui se destine à l'amour" by Mendès is a guidebook on love and seduction written in the late 19th century. It lays out a bold code for the would‑be Amant, insisting that illusion, performance, beauty, and controlled feeling—not sincerity—govern successful passion, conveyed through parables, maxims, and social critique. The work probes desire, the limits of knowing the beloved, and the aesthetic demands of erotic
life. The opening of this treatise frames love as a demanding vocation and arms a young aspirant with unsettling principles. The preface defines the Amant as one who can desire and become the ideal each woman imagines, then Chapter I exalts the “divine lie,” praising constant artifice in both lover and beloved (illustrated by the tale of the blonde hair preserved even after death). Chapter II urges self‑deception—the “divine illusion”—to transfigure sordid realities, while Chapter III’s parable of the blind lover and the famed physician declares dream preferable to disillusion. Chapter IV demands beauty and scorns mismatched unions, and Chapter V dismantles masculine pride in “conquest” through the story of Aimée Henriot, whose fate turns on chance more than merit. Chapter VI argues that a woman’s inner joy or sorrow remains unknowable and inexpressible, even by women themselves, given the limits of language. Chapter VII calls for renewed innocence at each new embrace, like an artist approaching every work afresh, and Chapter VIII condemns sordid male initiation, proposing utopian “Initiatrices” or, failing that, the mercy of generous women to spare youths from degradation. Chapter IX begins to address the perilous moment after the first kiss and the need for crafted conduct, breaking off just as the argument turns to managing that critical juncture. (This is an automatically generated summary.)
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| Author | Mendès, Catulle, 1841-1909 |
|---|---|
| Title | L'art d'aimer: ou conseils à un jeune homme qui se destine à l'amour |
| Original Publication | Paris: Flammarion, 1894. |
| Credits | Laurent Vogel, Robin Tremblay and the Online Distributed Proofreading Team at www.pgdp.net (This file was produced from images generously made available by the Bibliothèque nationale de France (BnF/Gallica)) |
| Language | French |
| LoC Class | HQ: Social sciences: The family, Marriage, Sex and Gender |
| Subject | Love |
| Category | Text |
| eBook-No. | 78098 |
| Release Date | Mar 2, 2026 |
| Copyright | Public domain in the USA. |
| Downloads | 6058 downloads in the last 30 days. |
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